frgavin on October 15th, 2012

This is the text of Part 3 of a series of leaflets handed out at the Conservative Party conference in Birmingham

‘Gay love is just like straight love’


Straight love flourishes with monogamy (1) – see further below.*  Gay male love flourishes with ‘variety’, and lasts longest with non-monogamy. Monogamy tends to lengthen heterosexual relationships but shorten homosexual ones.

Leading study, The Male Couple (2) states, ‘all couples with a relationship lasting more than five years have incorporated some provision for outside sexual activity in their relationships’. In fact, ‘many study couples said non-monogamy enabled them to stay together’, Beyond Monogamy (3) (2010).


If SSM is legal, children will be taught they may marry a man or a woman. But they must also be taught that the two could have different outcomes. Having multiple partners carries serious health risks and is unlikely to bring life-long permanence and happiness.

*In gayworld, ‘monogamy’ has evolved as a concept; it can mean emotional but not sex-only-with-you commitment (4).

See also gay myth 4

(1)   Few ‘open’ heterosexual couples were still married when Nena O’Neill (G & N O’Neill, Open Marriage, 1972), interviewed them some years later (Sexual Sabotage, J Reisman PhD (2010), pp. 97-103).  See also For polys [those in plural partnerships], ‘The average relationship length was nine years for closest partners and 2.5 years for second-closest partners’.

(2)   The Male Couple, McWhirter & Mattison, Prentice-Hall (1984), p.252
(3) (2010)
(4)  The new term for sex-only-with-you in gay world is ‘exclusive’ (The Future of Marriage, David Blankenhorn (2007), p. 149); also being ‘closed’. For more

Research by VfJUK and CORE

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